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Friday, January 11, 2008

Our loss - Tuesday 8 January

I want to make only a brief statement here on this blog to alert those of my friends who might read it, and who might not otherwise know ...

I lost my mother on Tuesday when she passed away in her sleep at about 1.45 pm, with just me and one of the nursing staff present as she stopped breathing. She hadn't been conscious for the best part of 48 hours. It's somewhat ironic that my father and sister were not there at the time, whereas I was; they had kept vigil all night, while I had gone back to my sister's place to rest for awhile at about 2.00 or 2.30 am. They were then getting a bit of rest while I took over the vigil.

The funeral took place today, with a very simple service exactly as Mum had wanted it.

I'm not one to make long public statements about my personal feelings, at least not here or now. Suffice to say that I'm distressed, as indeed we all are ... but especially my father who had been married to Mum for over 60 years, since they were a very young (and I might add fine-looking, since we've been poring through lots of old photographs) couple. It's a bleak time for us just now, so we're really just supporting each other emotionally.

For what I hope are obvious reasons, I will continue for some time to be a bit scarce here and elsewhere.

10 comments:

clodhopper said...

Russell: Deepest condolences on the loss of your mum. I went through that one some years ago and it's very very hard. Please come and join us again when you feel ready to.

May I also say that I would like to celebrate her life in that she gave you yours which enriches mine. If that makes any sense at all.

I'm wittering now *sobs* *shuts up*

drjon said...

My deepest condolences for your loss. I wish you and yours every strength.

Anonymous said...

Deeply sorry to hear that Russell. My sympathies to you and all your family.

Corylus

John Pieret said...

There is never anything to be said that is really adequate for such an occasion. My condolences and best wishes to you and your family.

Brian English said...

Deepest condolences Russell. I echo John's comment that there's nothing adequate that I can say on such an occasion. Take all the time you need and get back to us when you're ready.
Brian.

stuart peace said...

I'm really sorry to hear that, best wishes from me.

Blake Stacey said...

My condolences to you and your loved ones. Take your time, take care of yourself and come back when you feel ready.

Russell Blackford said...

Thanks to those who've responded, here on this blog, and to all those who've given emotional support. Jenny flew up to join me for the funeral, and we've all been camped at my sister's place since then. Jen and I fly back to Melbourne later today (Sunday) - at least for now - and we'll take things from there.

Thomas Hendrey said...

For what it's worth I'd like to echo the sentiments expressed above. Best wishes, there is nothing more I can say.

cbit said...

I'm sorry to hear about your loss Russel. Strength to you and your family.